I'm no help and you probably don't want to hear this...I think wild frizzy untamed hair is really beautiful. If you get a chance Google Linda Rodin, I greatly admire her look and style. At 72 this is a women who gets more attractive as she ages. She just piles her hair up messily on top of her head. I love it! I would take frizzy fullness any day over my look of hair that one would find on the sixth day of a seven day death mask...near corpse, limp clinging hair.
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