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4 years ago

I have to say I'm always more predisposed to be helpful to contributors who include please and thank you in their requests. It's disheartening to see a brusque 'demand' for readers to offer their assistance (sometimes taking great pains to do so). A little courtesy please - it really creates the feel-good factor. Thank you!

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Daisy England

4 years ago

last modified: 4 years ago

I post regularly on another very well known forum and this was commented on there too.

I do think there’s a polite way to ask a question and as long as it’s ‘nicely’ written for me I’m happy with that. It’s very rare I see a thank you after every post.

What I do find annoying is people posting, contributors taking the time to do their homework for them and then we never heard another thing from the original poster. It would just be nice to have some feedback.

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OnePlan
4 years ago
Hear hear !!
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Anthony (Beano)
4 years ago
last modified: 4 years ago
Have to agree with this! Nice to be nice :-)
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Sonia
4 years ago
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Well said! I agree with you OnePlan , Daisy and Beano too. The times us regular Houzzers make an effort to answer dilemmas, find photos etc, and not even a Like, let alone thank you! I’m going to start saying things like “Hello, anyone there? Answer please!”. It’s just downright rude.
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Anthony (Beano)
4 years ago
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Tbh I think @Sonia is the king of posting pics to help! You have the patience on a saint :-) @Jonathan takes a lot of time of to work on plans too, they are less visited threads, I’m useless at that so can never add, @minnie101 puts lots of thought in her replies too, the kitchen thread for one! @Marina Drobot at Cinnamon Space is fantastic at her renders too! there are others but these ones really shine for me!

i know this place is made up of a lot more and we all do our wee bit, just want to give a wee clap to the above mentioned.
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Sonia
4 years ago
@Beano that’s so kind of you. I enjoy helping people so it’s no hardship, but a thank you is always nice even if people don’t like my suggestions lol! I’m in awe of @Jonathan because I see a plan and my brain shuts down, so to see him swop plans about is just amazing. Let’s not forget the queen of garden design plans @rachelmidlands - a garden goddess! And @colourhappy the queen of colour. Of course there are so many more on Houzz that help but credit where credit is due!
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Patrina
4 years ago
I echo @Beano and @Sonia's comments. I really look out for the comments from everyone mentioned. I love the ease and familiarity you bring to this forum. #youguysgivegoodHouzz. You all rock! :-)
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Anthony (Beano)
4 years ago
last modified: 4 years ago
Sorry @Patrina my old mate, forgot about mentioning you :-( sorry, we just chip in when someone needs something making! Lol
Daisy England
4 years ago
There are a lot of contributors on here that certainly spend a lot of time trying to help. When you get no feedback it is rather disheartening.

Let’s also not forget Rinq who has offered some great kitchen ideas.
E D
4 years ago
Although I agree with the responses above, on the whole I do think the requests for help here are quite polite and kind and I actually don’t really experience too much in the way of unmannered ‘demands’,

Moreover, I find this forum extremely helpful and a lovely, friendly place to be.
rachelmidlands
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I think all the regular contributors to the Houzz discussions are all fabulous!!! Although Houzz does has a fair few glitches sometimes which makes me think that this could be a reason for OP not responding. I don’t care, I love design, interiors and so on and love reading all the posts and helpful advice and contributing when I can.
I have to agree with ED though and say this forum is wonderfully polite and friendly, unlike the Screwfix forum where I’ve seen some of the worst arguments ever:)
Sam Potter
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I agree with all the praise heaped on the contributors mentioned above, all of whom have given me invaluable advice, and have educated me in design and diy. I'll add Brandler London because without Chris' advice my understairs drawers would be be very much wonkier. Thank you all for helping me get my house sorted!
Sonia
4 years ago
I agree that in general this forum is the friendliest I’ve ever been on, and I’ve tried a few! I found Mumsnet the worst - so judgemental and just horrid. I’m amazed that people pour their hearts out to a load of strangers and then get upset at some of the replies. Still nice if people say thank you though.......
rinked
4 years ago
last modified: 4 years ago
How thoughtful, Daisy, thank you!

The main reason I 'came back' to this forum (after the first 4 years of motherhood) is because I missed the friendly neighbourhood feel. Besides, channeling my inner creativity into helping people with their Design Dilemmas is a win win situation. Best hobby ever! :) :)

I do wish the original posters would post more results, would be great to see how their projects have evolved and/or finished. Joy and gratitude is the best payment for free advise.
Ellie
4 years ago
last modified: 4 years ago
I was actually quite surprised by this post as I do find everyone really thankful on here, and most posts do come with a please as well.

I do agree that I wish there were more of 'and here is how it all turned out....' with pics

I am going to upload pics on friday of my almost finished kitchen!!!! My lights are getting put up tomorrow and cornice/plinth getting finished too! New floor down too after it all had to be lifted!
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minnie101
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I would agree with the Queen of Colour!! i could be tempted by a "Houzz" workshop :)

Thanks Beano : ) I don't really contribute much nowadays but there are a number of great contributors on here that do. Whilst I agree the majority of Houzz is lovely and friendly I do agree there are a few (non-regular) posters who pop up every now and again and could be slightly more appreciative. I don't expect a "like", you could get something wrong (!) or just totally misunderstand their style but I don't think it hurts to say thanks (especially as you're prompted!). Whilst everyone who contributes does so as a hobby/passion/professional etc it does mean giving up their sometimes precious time to help a stranger. I know some things may only take minutes but people often give up hours of their free time, sometimes going back and forth for days to redesign a house or kitchen!! (Clearly not talking about myself!)
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OnePlan
4 years ago
It’s lovely when someone helps another out - the ‘I did good feeling’ is worth putting the effort in ... but sadly I don’t get as much free time to Houzz anymore - and I get a bit distracted with threads out of order on the app and other quirks that have made Houzzing a bit more complicated than it once was.
MrOnePlan used to work away all week - but he’s now working from the same office as me - which is lovely - but again cuts into my Houzz time ... ( and my desk space !) I do keep popping in and trying to catch up ! Worth it when you see so much clever help going on ! Keep up the great work everyone !!! ;-)
Eileen M
4 years ago
<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><md>As someone who has no creative flair and consequently little confidence I can’t tell you how thrilling and appreciated it is when someone takes the time and effort to give their advice to me. So thank you very much to those folk previously name checked and all the other good and thoughtful people on these discussion forums.

Manners maketh man.

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