They are all looking so purple on my screen lol. It makes sense, since there is definitely a pink/purple undertone to all these colors, including Cinder. What I think is happening is that the undertone is becoming more noticeable the lighter you go, so based on that I would go with Sterling Silver. If you went any lighter I would be worried that you will really notice that purple and hate it. On the other hand, you may love it but we are trying to be fairly neutral here, so we probably don't want to see a lot of the purple. I have to say that I find grays to be the hardest color of all to get right, which is why I recommended Cinder. I have seen it on my daughter's kitchen cabinets, as well as on the Ikea kitchen displays, so I know how it behaves. But, I think (crossing my fingers) you'll be safe with Sterling Silver. I tried it out as a wall color on several room mock-ups on the Ben Moore site and the purple doesn't seem to be taking over. I would still recommend painting one cabinet door with the color first, before you commit to the entire set.
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Inchyra Blue by Farrow & Ball
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